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by Anonymous on September 17th, 2004

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My best friend who is 16 just started dating my cousin who is 26. I'm very concerned about this... am I over-reacting?

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  • by Anonymous on October 26th, 2004

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    NO YOU ARE NOT! Don't even try to convince her that it is wrong. Go directly to your parents, his and hers. If you try to talk to your best friend and cousin first, it could just cause more trouble to build up between the 3 of you. They will probably both be upset when they find out that you told, but that is such a big age difference and something definitely needs to be done and it would probably be best handled by the parents. I am assuming that your 16 year old best friend is the girl in the relationship? If so, there is a good chance that your cousin who is 26 could take advantage of her being young and naiive. Not to say that he is a bad guy, because he might not even realize that he is doing. It's just that older guys around his age usually expect sex and often more committment then a 16 year old girl would be ready for and the girl will often give in to keep the older guy around. Though many people become physically attracted to some one way older, emotionally it just doesn't work and usually leads to a lot of heart ache for both people involved in the end. The sex part is also illegal, you know? She should be dating someone closer to her own age (like still in highschool too) who is interested in more similar things and won't expect as much from her. Even if the situation is reversed where your best friend is a 16 year old boy and you cousin is 26 year old woman (which is less likely but possible of course), it still isn't right. A 16 year old boy should be worrying about stuff like school, homework, sports, etc. while most 26 year old women are worrying about their careers, home, settling down and having kids, etc. There is just such a big difference in experience and maturity levels between 16 and 26. And, if there isn't then the 26 year old is pretty immature and probably needs some help growing up a bit. Don't be afraid to get the parents involved, it would be best for both of them.

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